Out of the relationship, but the pounds are still on?

Many of us have been there. Whether it was unintentional, or masking something unhappy, eating emotionally...for whatever reason, you've come out of this relationship with more baggage than you went into it with.

In a study by Weight Watchers in America of 25,000 married women, those who claimed to be in an unhappy relationship gained an average of 54 pounds during the first 10 years of marriage. Those who claim happy marriages don't fare much better, nor do men after 10 years of marriage.

Being a mental health professional, and having been athletic since Junior High, one would have thought I'd be an exception to the rule. No, the marriage weight gain hit me, too, in a big way.

My marriage, in its 21 years, was happy at times and miserable at times. I married and had a child at age 19, and within the first 10 years, I went from a curvaceous 36/26/36 figure, gained that average 54 pounds and more, and had started on my road of fad diets, skyrocketing weight, losing it all fast, then gaining again, losing more muscle and gaining more fat every cycle. By the time my husband and I separated, I was tired, my knees ached, and I was sad. I mustered up my courage and stepped on a scale...and right back off. After 21 years of marriage, I had gone from a healthy 5'9" and 145 lbs to 320 lbs!

Some of you may have gained that much or more, some just 20 or 40 pounds. This site is for everyone who has been in a long term relationship and found that they are back in the singles arena, only there is more of you.

It's time to drop the baggage - both the psychological issues that the relationship might have dreged up or caused, and that of regaining physical health. This blog will contain reviews of diets out there, fat-busting techniques, relationship discussions, dating tips, and anything else that one might need to drop the baggage and move forward into a new life.